How to Master the Art of Healthy Communication
As we head into the weekend, I have some suggestions about one of the most basic skills you can develop: communication. Think about these ideas as you wind down from a hectic workweek.
Transforming yourself from an ordinary communicator into a healthy communicator can have a major positive impact on your relationships- both at home and at work.
Mastering the Art of Healthy Communication is a process of positive change within you. The positive impact that you create as you become a healthy communicator will resonate for yourself and everyone you come in contact with. Your family. Someone you’re in a relationship with. Your friends.
When you see friends and family members doing things that are not healthy for them, your abilities as a healthy communicator come into play.
Are You Open to Learning?
I’ve heard it said that you’re either green and growing or you’re ripe and rotten. When I use this agricultural metaphor, my meaning is that you’re either open and learning or you’re closed off to learning, and thus slowly disconnecting from life. Healthy communication means keeping the learning channel open, taking in new information by listening well, gaining new insights and understanding in an ever more informed perspective, and then using what you’ve learned where it can do some good to create positive change in your life, in your relationships and in your world.
Learning vs. Understanding
I suppose that most people think that some kind of useful learning automatically occurs when information is understood. But not all understanding leads to learning. For example, you can learn to use the lingo and jargon associated with something, but if it doesn’t lead to any improvements, what’s the point of it? Or, you can learn a concept, but if it doesn’t empower you to change anything, it serves no purpose. So I am an advocate for transformational learning experiences. That’s what happens when you learn something useful, and then use it. It’s usually preceded by an internal state called “AHA!” And that state is the result of asking yourself, “What does this idea mean for me? Where might this be useful? How can I apply it? What result can I aim this at as a way of exploring the possibility of it?”
So the next time you read a good idea on this blog, or hear one from an associate, or pick one up from anywhere else, go beyond the concept stage, get past the jargon stage, and try it out somewhere to find out what happens. Then you’ll increase your understanding, really learn how to use it, and be able to use what you’ve learned for positive change when it might best do some good.
Have a great weekend!
Dr. Rick Kirschner
Rick is a best selling author and the founder of the Art of Change Skills for Life. His book titles include, Dealing with People You Can’t Stand: How to bring out the best in people at their worst, Life by Design and Influence and the Art of Persuasion. These days he is spending quality time away from the spotlight enjoying the company of his wife and practicing his electric guitar.