Dr. K Quoted In Canada On Couples That Compete
One more post for the week, then back next week with more voice characteristics for building connection. And speaking of connections…
Prior to Oscar night, I was interviewed and later quoted in an article by Canadian writer Joanne Richard on the competition that happens in couples. The knowledge that BrAngelina would be attending, both parts of the power couple with nominations, was what started it.
Ironically, I forgot to mention to her that my wife and I are currently competing for Facebook friends. She started it. “I have 140 friends.” My response, which I delivered with great glee, was ‘ Oh yeah? Eat my friendship dust baby!’
By the way, if you’d like to be my Facebook friend, you can help me increase my numbers! 😉
To sign up for Facebook, follow the link below:
Or, you can help her. 🙁
Actually, I don’t mind at all. It’s just a friendly competition, and in any case, we like friends.
I apologize for taking so long to post this. I’ve been a bit preoccupied the past two weeks. But now I’m back, and here’s the quote from the article:
According to Dr. Rick Kirschner, competition can lead to serious conflict when a wife out-earns a husband; one partner’s success or fame greatly outweighs the other; or both partners are in the same line of work.
While friendly competition challenges each one to achieve, improve and surpass, “serious competition is often fueled by jealousy, suppressed anger and feelings of self-doubt — which may even lead to self-loathing,” says Kirschner, of theartofchange.com.Keeping score is sure to divide and conquer both winner and loser in the long run. “Then everybody loses.” Of course, you can learn to lose gracefully. “If your partner out performs you and you concede, you may win some relationship points.”
Rick is a best selling author and the founder of the Art of Change Skills for Life. His book titles include, Dealing with People You Can’t Stand: How to bring out the best in people at their worst, Life by Design and Influence and the Art of Persuasion. These days he is spending quality time away from the spotlight enjoying the company of his wife and practicing his electric guitar.