Anytime you have an experience, good or bad, in which you know that what you did effected the result, and then you mentally play it again in the same way, you increase the likelihood that the next time you’re in a similar situation, you will do an even better job of having the same reaction and result
To help you have a healthy as well as happy holiday season, I offer you the following recommendations, along with my best wishes to you and yours for an enjoyable season filled with love and gratitude.
At the reunion, I wonder if I’ll get back a few more pieces of my youth. And I suppose I may wonder, after being around former classmates and friends, if I had a do-over, how I would do things differently.
It’s always a pleasure to hear from readers, but in this case, a particular pleasure. The message is very polite in tone. I do not speak Espanol, but my wife does, and she translated it for me (I’ll share that with you in a moment).
You must learn to speak purposefully to yourself to change your attitude for the better. You can develop a few quick-draw mental comments that help you to keep your sense of humor and perspective around difficulties. For example, here are some great things to say to yourself, with brief explanations of how they are true:
have you ever stopped to actually listen to that voice inside your head, really hear the way you talk to yourself, the kinds of things you say about yourself and the world around you? Ever listened to the tone and what it sounds like it’s saying? Ever said to yourself, “What a jerk! I can’t believe this is happening to me!” or “I don’t get paid for this kind of abuse!” How do such thoughts affect your attitude and your behavior? Do those thoughts help or hinder you?