I know that the world has appeared to be coming to an end since it’s very beginning, and that things are actually getting better while they appear to be getting worse. I know it’s always darker before the dawn, and that my feelings serve me and empower me if I simply honor them.
The trick is not to buy into negative behavior, but instead, to reframe it and make it useful to yourself. How to make negativity useful? Remember, a negative person can serve two valuable functions in your life: They can be your personal character builder, and they can serve as an early warning system when it comes to problems.
How can you think fast? It begins by accepting what the moment brings and responding to it creatively and with determination. Worse case scenario, your quick thinking gets a bad result. But best case is a great result, and when it comes to thinking fast, you’ll never know until you try.
Relationships have less to do with reality than with perception. Find out what you’re doing that you could do better, what you’re not doing that you should be doing, and what you’re doing that you should stop doing, and you can improve any relationship for the better.
The role that our assumptions play in communication success is fundamental. And the challenge with assumptions is to make useful ones rather than limiting ones. A useful assumption gives you enough informed perspective on your own behavior and the behavior of others that you can engage in behaviors that lead to worthwhile outcomes.
One of my favorite jokes to play on an audience is to ask someone to ask me what I do for a living. Someone bites. “What do you do for a living?” I reply, “I’m a comedian. Now, someone ask me why I’m so successful.” Someone bites. “Why are you…” but I interrupt them and…