Today’s post is about dealing with your bottled up feelings, and how to develop your emotional intelligence. It is in response to a comment I received on my blog a little while back, in which a reader wrote:
I love the idea of resolving conflict instead of suffering it and making it worse. I frequently do this kind of work with my coaching clients and organizational clients. Effective communication is the key, and breaking the chains of reaction in yourself and then others is the beginning of it.
By identifying a good internal response ahead of time and then rehearsing it a bit in the privacy of your own mind, you can give yourself the advantage of being prepared, and the other person the benefit of your verbal gratitude.
Remember me telling you that you need a group committed to being extraordinary? That means you need a big outcome in mind, not some piddly thing that doesn’t mean anything to you. To go for success, you need a big desired state that requires you to stretch in order for you to achieve it. Think of it this way:
A Mastermind group is not a shmooze fest. It’s not a love in, a reading circle, a salon, or a philosophy discussion. And it’s not a support group where people tell their story and get into their feelings. You can use groups for all of these things, but the purpose of a Mastermind group is to produce action that leads to success.
The people that you spend time with are a major influence in your life. So you want to carefully choose the members of your Mastermind group to have the best possible influence. They can be people who differ from you in background and knowledge, but it is essential that they share values and have similar aspirations for their lives. And it is imperative that they agree with you about the purpose of the group and the intent to mutually prosper from it.