You’ve likely experienced the ‘all of us are smarter than any of us’ phenomenon. It happens for me when I’m working on a book. If I come to an idea that isn’t quite dialed in, I run it by someone else and in the sharing of it, it either becomes clear to me or my lack of clarity provokes the person I shared it with to tell me what I was missing. Yet on my own, that missing piece or lack of clarity is unresolvable.
Masterminding is a powerful approach to brainstorming, problem solving and goal achievement that has been around for centuries. It is what takes place when a group of people agree in a committed way to utilize the synergetic advantage of ‘all of us are smarter than any of us,’ to help each person in the group do better than they might on their own.
Yes, some of the best ideas are met with resistance. But so are some of the worst ones. Important solutions fail to be implemented because of resistance. But that happens to ineffective solutions as well. When someone is resisting your persuasive communication attempts, you might gain an advantage by owning the phenomenon.
People don’t suddenly change their behavior. First they have to change their mind. But first they have to know that change is an option. Change happens in stages, and the first stage is ignorance.
You must learn to speak purposefully to yourself to change your attitude for the better. You can develop a few quick-draw mental comments that help you to keep your sense of humor and perspective around difficulties. For example, here are some great things to say to yourself, with brief explanations of how they are true: