Some people are more practiced at assigning blame than others. There is no point in arguing with them. Much conflict comes down to blaming statements. Yet more often than not, no matter how reasonable these blaming statements sound, more often than not they are made up of reasons that don’t hold up to scrutiny.
Today is day one in my healthy communication class (Psyc 604) at Southwest College of Naturopathic Medicine. This intensive is one of the most rewarding things I do each year, because I relish the chance to teach these future doctors
The blending made possible by your shared values allows you to work through differences without the differences undermining your work, to disagree without being disagreeable. Here’s the case in point:
Anytime you have an experience, good or bad, in which you know that what you did effected the result, and then you mentally play it again in the same way, you increase the likelihood that the next time you’re in a similar situation, you will do an even better job of having the same reaction and result
How do you let people know you are on their side? Simple. Send a few signals of similarity. The fact is, people send all kinds of signals with their communication. They signal valuable information not just about who they are, but also how they are and why they are the way they are. If you…
Yes, some of the best ideas are met with resistance. But so are some of the worst ones. Important solutions fail to be implemented because of resistance. But that happens to ineffective solutions as well. When someone is resisting your persuasive communication attempts, you might gain an advantage by owning the phenomenon.