Category: Dealing with Difficult People

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New! Audiobook ‘Dealing With People You Can’t Stand’ now available!

Available on audio for the first time ever… DEALING WITH PEOPLE YOU CAN’T STAND Written and read by Dr. Rick Kirschner and Dr. Rick Brinkman. Available on CD or as a digital download. With their 1994 international bestseller, Drs. Rick Kirschner and Rick Brinkman armed the world with no-nonsense strategies for dealing with difficult people…
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January 31, 2011 0

When Not To Meet People Where They Are, When Not To Blend

Seems to me that you’re either engaging with someone or you’re not. There is always plenty going on, and going on back and forth in a cycle of reciprocity as is the nature of things. But when not to blend?


October 11, 2010 1

Best Way To Handle Yourself In A Conflict Situation

Knowing what you want, making the distinction between what someone is doing and what you think about what they’re doing, and then knowing the principles of good communication, you can engage with people in a positive instead of a negative way


September 6, 2010 0

How To Depersonalize a Personal Attack

The point is to disrupt the attack long enough for the person to regain some self-control. Persist in this pattern, and the person is likely to be stopped in their tracks long enough to get their ability to think back!


August 2, 2010 0

Fastest Way To End A Conflict When Someone Says You’re Wrong

For example, let’s say that I said something which, in spite of my good intentions, somehow offended you. And, just as night follows day, the result is that you accuse me of being offensive. Experience of being in this very situation has taught me that the simplest thing to say is, ‘You’re right. I’ve clearly offended you, and I apologize, because that wasn’t what I intended.”


July 26, 2010 1

If Not Me, Who? If Not Now, When?

In this final post of my blog series about getting beyond Us/Them thinking, I’d like to talk about the part we each play in what happens to all of us. The world is my country.  All mankind are my brethren.  To do good is my religion. – Thomas Paine I love that quote.  That’s from…
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April 12, 2010 3