Sending Yourself Messages From The Future – Life Skills

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Sending Yourself Messages From The Future – Life Skills

March 8, 2010 Life Skills 6

Last month, I blogged about how to start your year off right with nutrition and exercise. To make such changes for the better, your motivation has to align with your direction.   And one of the best ways to find your motivation and change the way you take care of yourself is to look for it inside of two stories about the future, one irresistible, the other repulsive.   A future that beckons is like a tractor beam that pulls you forward, while a future that frightens you serves as a repulser ray that pushes you away.  Working together, your hopes and fears can move you to make dramatic changes.

“Civilization is a race between education and catastrophe.”   -H.G. Wells

The problem is that if you wait for these things to become clear, they may take too long.  At that point, you may find the repulsive future looming on your horizon,  and the irresistible one fading from the realm of possibility.   The good news is that you don’t have to wait until it’s too late!

Compelling futures can be intentionally designed, and the more three dimensional, vivid and intense  you make these competing ideas, the more potent they are as internal agents of change.

“When you come to a fork in the road, take it.”  -Yogi Berra

Some people find it easier to create these compelling futures by writing them down.  Others are able to do it through a relaxed flight of fancy into the imagination.  Still others do best by finding living examples of the positive and negative futures.  You can do some experiments to find what works best for you.

For example, if you want to lose weight and gain self esteem, imagine  getting older and fatter, see  yourself doing nothing more to change and notice how that adds up in the months and years ahead.  To enhance the experience, see your future body nude in a mirror, or feel the effort and exertion it takes to move and function.  You could even add a sound track of self talk, where your future self says “If only I’d done something back in the past,  I wouldn’t be in this situation now!”  Or, you could spend several weeks closely observing the difficulties that larger people have in moving and getting comfortable in different kinds of chairs, and the way that the people around them look at them, talk to them and treat them.    Then observe the energy, ease and grace with which healthy people in your desired weight range move about in society.

Or, you could write a story about your future self, the difficulties you encounter as a result of bad health and bad feelings from being overweight and allowing laziness or stupidity to be the source of your decisions.   Write about the choices you made that lead to this awful outcome.   Then turn it around.  Imagine a positive compelling future, and write a story about that, and include the steps taken, the choices made, the dates and times of turning points that produced the happy ending.

If you want to quit smoking and start breathing deeply, you could imagine yourself in a hospital some years in the future.  See the pain in the faces of your loved ones, and consider all that is  stolen from their lives and yours because of your habit of breathing smoke instead of air.   Feel what it’s like to lose your voice and have to talk through a piece of equipment.  Contemplate the loss of being able to take a special trip to celebrate a marriage or birth, and  your family’s loss that results from something you didn’t do when there was still time to do something.   Add in the pain, sadness, regret and disappointment to make this future extremely unpleasant, and well worth avoiding.   A visit to emphysema and lung cancer patients in a hospital near you will make this more vivid for you.

Once the awful future has been seen, look at the steps that led you there, and connect it back to the here and now.    Then, immediately take the time to create an alternative future, the one that will happen if the habit is broken, or the behavior changed.  Again, the more specific you are about choices and actions, the more depth, color, animation and vibrancy you add, the more compelling these futures will be and the better they will serve you as motivating agents of change.

Ok, let’s apply this idea to your relationship with my blogging.  Imagine, for example, little ole’ me getting enough feedback and comments to stay excited about blogging for months, maybe even years, to come!  Imagine me sharing with you all of the high end secrets and strategic information about high quality living that I’ve learned through study, trial and error;  information that can help you get what you want out of your life, work and relationships.  Now, imagine that I didn’t get enough comments on these posts and just gave up.  Please, don’t let that happen… Leave a comment on this or any other post on my blog!

Compelling visions of the future get and hold our attention where it belongs…on doing what we can with what we have in order to make tomorrow better than today.

Next month, our topic will once again be in the realm of communication.  Until then,

Be well,

Rick


 

6 Responses

  1. Joanne McCulley says:

    AMEN!!! Once the picture is clear, I find commiting to a specific attaintable goal and setting up an accountability buddy around the new behaviour helps keep the picture clear. 3 years ago I couldn’t walk 2 miles – 6 months later I reached the goal of completing a sprint triathlon. The picture was clear, the obstacles fell away because I had a buddy who kept pushing me. Here’s wishing the best for everyeone’s new goals.

    • Joanne, thank you for your comment, and congratulations on holding true to your vision! I highly recommend the accountability buddy/life by design partner arrangement. It’s incredibly motivating and empowering!

      best wishes,
      Rick

  2. Rija says:

    I find alot of your writings very helpful and informative. Thank you.

  3. Kathy Asmuth says:

    Hi, Ricky. Still enjoying your blogs…..they’re so upbeat and inspiring. Thanks for letting me know about them when we visited last summer. Take care and keep on writing……I’ll keep on reading!

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